At this writing, I’ve been sober 16 years.
Getting sober takes time.
I’ve seen a few myths derail more than one person’s chance at getting sober.
One myth says: “I am sober when I stop drinking.”
Wrong. Not, somewhat wrong, or a little wrong. Wrong. Dead wrong. You’re clean, as it were, when you stop drinking, not sober.
Here’s the reality (fact) that replaces the myth. You have to stop drinking in order to get sober. Getting sober takes time. Trust me. If you’re fortunate enough to be in your early strides of the experience, you don’t yet realize how unwell you are.
Another myth says: “I can do it alone” and yet another is some family member or loved one thinking that they can save the alcoholic-addict.
Reality says: “Not only are you wrong, but don’t you think it’s nice to find out there is at least one massive life challenge you don’t have to face alone?”
There is another unflinching fact. Being an active alcoholic results in one of three endings: jails, institutions, or death. This is fact.
One other thing, another expression I learned. You’re not allowed to kill yourself in your first three years of sobriety because you’ll be killing the wrong person.