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NY State Brain Injury Council in complete disarray

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At first glance, the agenda for the December 10 meeting of the New York State Traumatic Brain Injury Services Coordinating Council  seems perfectly reasonable, unless, of course, you think the TBISCC should be abiding by its own by-laws and by the mandate it was given when it was  formed in 1994 by an act of the New York State Legislature.

A July 5, 2011 post in this blog accurately observes that “it doesn’t much matter (to the council) that “Under Article 27-CC of the New York State Public Health Law, the New York State Traumatic Brain Injury Services Coordinating Council is mandated to recommend long-range objectives, goals and priorities, as well as provide advice on the planning, development and coordination of a comprehensive, statewide TBI program.”” After all, as this blog previously reported , “more than 10 years of TBISCC meeting minutes tell us the council” has “failed to come up with any real comprehensive proposals for the DOH”at all.

Ignoring its own by-laws

Apparently ignoring the  council’s own by-laws doesn’t seem to matter either. It certainly doesn’t matter to attorneys Michael Kaplen and Judith Avner whose two-year terms as council chair and vice-chair expired long ago. The term lengths are clearly outlined in the by-laws.

To underscore the glaring disregard for the by-laws and everything the council stands for, both Kaplen’s and Avner’s terms as council members had expired eight and nine years ago respectively: Avner’s on Aug. 9, 2003, Kaplen’s on Feb. 12, 2004 (Kaplen managed recently to get himself reappointed although his current term ends in February 2013). The expiration of their terms didn’t stop either one of them from taking part in council meetings or laying claim to being the council’s leaders. It also didn’t inspire council members to stand up and say something. The fact the state’s department of health has, to date, done nothing about this, may  reflect a desire on their part part to keep the council as ineffective as possible. It is somewhat troubling to note that a DOH deputy commissioner is scheduled to report to the council on December 10, a move that can be seen as DOH support for keeping the council dysfunctional and ineffective.

To make matters worse, a recent document released by the state’s department of health, says Ms. Avner’s term on the council remains expired. One wonders if the number of council meeting cancellations this year has not, to some degree, been to give the likes of Kaplen and Avner time to get themselves reappointed. If so, it would mean that the needs of New Yorkers with brain injuries were once again being set aside for personal gain. If it is announced at the December 10 meeting that Avner has been reappointed, the preceding speculation may well have its roots in fact.

Disrespecting  NY State Legislature – among others

The fact Kaplen and Avner have been allowed to remain at the helm by their fellow council members and by the state’s department of health reflects an astonishing lack of accountability, glaring disrespect for New Yorkers with brain injuries, and, not at all incidentally, disrespect for the very state legislature that should be commended for forming the council in the first place.

Yet, a read of the agenda for the upcoming meeting reflects business as usual. Kaplen and Avner at the helm, surrounded by council members who have, so far, remained silent. They need to stop being silent and speak up. There was a time when this writer, who has long believed Kaplen simply needs to get out and then keep on going, believed Avner needed to remain on board. This has changed. Avner, who is and should not be the executive director of the Brain Injury Association of NY State (BIANYS),  needs to get out as well. Let’s not forget that, as reported last year in this blog, she voted on a measure that had a direct bearing on the BIANYS despite being warned during the meeting that her vote was a violation of the state’s public officer’s law and thus the council’s by-laws.

Knowledge gone to waste

And then there is this observation. Over the years, quite a few groups have presented valuable information to the council, including, but not limited to, OVR (Office of Vocational Rehabilitation), NYS Education Department, Office of Mental Heal, NYS Crime Victims Board, Office of Alcohol and Substance Abuse Services, OMRDD (now OPWDD), Office of Advocates for People with Disabilities, Mt. Sinai School of Medicine, NYS Division of Veterans Affairs, Unity House, NYS Coalition on Domestic Violence, and so on.  But then, nothing happens with the information! It is not shared with New Yorkers with brain injuries, it is not shared with providers, nothing. So what is the point? To inflate the egos of those who sit at the head of the table like pseudo-royalty?

Time to stand up

To those council members who truly do care, let me say that you need to stand up to anyone and anything that gets in the way of what the council was designed to be and do in the first place. I know facing Kaplen’s bully tactics and Avner’s talent for saccharin lip-service is not easy. It can even be scary for some, and I get that. But consider this, consider what those you are there to help have faced. Here is a glimpse of just few.

  • A young man in Cortland who suffered his brain injury in a car accident and, in that accident, witnessed two of his friends being decapitated.
  • A young woman so savagely beaten and raped she was left for dead.
  • A woman who went into labor joyous at the thought she was going to have a child and suffered a stroke.
  • A veteran in his early 20s who sustained his brain injury from an explosive device in Iraq.
  • A woman who, while in her early twenties, suffered a car accident and remained in a coma for more than six months. When she came out of the coma she learned her brother, who had been sitting next to her in the car had died.
  • A woman who was a teacher and on one lovely winter’s evening went for a walk with her husband. They were pulling their two children behind them on a Flexible Flyer sled. Suddenly a snowmobile driven by a  man who was drunk hit all of them. The husband escaped injury. The woman suffered a brain injury and deals daily with the challenges of being a quadriplegic. Worst of all, she will tell you, is dealing with the wrenching fact that both her children died in the accident.

So, yes, I know it can be scary. But stand up. Stand up for these folks, for yourselves, for the right every person with a brain injury (or any disability) has to be treated as equals, and to be afforded every conceivable opportunity to regain their maximum level of independence, which includes – always includes –  their right to respect and dignity.

Share your concerns

Concerned citizens can voice their concerns to NY Governor Andrew Cuomo here and, just as important, to the Commission on Quality of Care and Advocacy for Persons with Disabilities  here.

Call me sinner, call me man

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Call me sinner. Call me man. Call me a human being doing best he can. Nothing always easy about the lifting veil to change. New beginnings, new muscles, or old ones long unused being called on again. It’s down to the pen from here on out. Words against violence I must write, many of them. Violence. Been done to me and I done to others, men and women; this crazy sickness besetting so many, all only getting sicker in their silence.

I ask no favors. I ask no sympathy. Will any of this be easy? No. But easier than living nothing, of that you can be sure. Men and women, boys and girls, all walks of life need to know that there is no difference between the alcoholic-addict clinging to the porcelain throne swearing he or she will never use again and the wrenched-up sobbing man or woman swearing they’ll never strike their family member again. In both moments both people are being honest, both can pass a polygraph with flying colors (never known flying colors to do shit for anyone). But both are wrong. Without treatment there will be more using and more violence. The diseases of both are bigger and stronger than anyone’s will power. Will power is not enough. We are talking about two real diseases, addiction and violence; I know this to be true because I’ve had both.

There is no healthy reason on planet earth to surrender decision making to addiction and there is no healthy reason on planet earth to be violent to another person, family or stranger, not unless you are defending your life.

I don’t know how many years I have left in life. I am two strides from 60. I do know that I can’t undo my past and undo the wounds I’ve inflicted on others, particularly my first wife, a woman who will always live full length in my heart and soul. I do know that I can, even with just the written word, maybe, just maybe, help others.

For those on the out-of-control addiction and out-of-control violence fronts it is time to surrender to the reality you are grappling with and get help. You are not responsible for the sickness, you are for those you hurt while you are sick and you are responsible for your recovery. You need and, more importantly, deserve help – professional help. It took me years of treatment to get well on the violence and addiction fronts. It will likely take you years to get well too. But, it is time well spent. It is a blessing, a tears of joy blessing, to be forever freed of the urge to use and the urge to strike.

For those on the receiving end of these behaviors…there is no healthy reason for you to stay around. I’d go through getting shot in the head 10 times over to both spare my wife the hell I put her through and the hell of losing her I put me through. But here’s the thing, her leaving me on February 12, 1981 was her last gift to me. It was my bottom on that front. It is what sent me into therapy where I worked with all my might for years, where I held no one but me accountable for my behavior.

When my time comes, if I know it is coming, I’d like to be able to close my eyes that last time knowing I did all I could to make amends, help others, breathe love and kindness into the world, add some peace.

Now soon I move and the focus will be writing, and doing so honestly,  and as courageously as I can.

Peace.

NYS TBI Council Going to Waste

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For more than a decade now the NYS Traumatic Brain Injury Services Coordinating Council has offered virtually no proposals to the state’s Department of Health and the DOH has not asked for any.  Apparently it doesn’t much matter that “Under Article 27-CC of the New York State Public Health Law, the New York State Traumatic Brain Injury Services Coordinating Council is mandated to recommend long-range objectives, goals and priorities, as well as provide advice on the planning, development and coordination of a comprehensive, statewide TBI program.”

Instead, more than 10 years of TBISCC meeting minutes tell us the council – under the leadership of first Charlie Wolf and now Michael Kaplen – has had a wide range of important presenters but failed to come with any real comprehensive proposals for the DOH. The list of presenters is indeed impressive: VESID, NYS Education Department, Office of Mental Heal, NYS Crime Victims Board, Office of Alcohol and Substance Abuse Services, OMRDD (now OPWDD), Office of Advocates for People with Disabilities, Mt. Sinai School of Medicine, NYS Division of Veterans Affairs, Unity House, NYS Coalition on Domestic Violence, the Brain Injury Association of NYS and more. But to what end? What is the point?

All this and more makes one wonder why the council has never come up with any comprehensive proposals that include “long-range objectives, goals and priorities, as well as provide advice on the planning, development and coordination of a comprehensive, statewide TBI program.” Is the DOH wielding undue influence behind the scenes? Are there conflict of interest at play that are problematic? Are some members of the council (not all I assure you) there for rather self-serving reasons. Question: Who nominated Charlie Wolf for council chair? Answer: Charlie Wolf!

The TBISCC has an important voice and an important role to fill. It can have and should have an influential presence.

There have been moments, albeit rare ones, when the council has shown signs of life and self-awareness.  Minutes from the September 10, 2002  reveal  “(t)here was strong concern voiced by many members that the Council has lost its charge and needs to re-think what its purpose is.”  Minutes from a September 9, 2003 meeting say the council drafted a letter to then DOH official Betty Rice expressing the council’s dissatisfaction “with not being allowed to review (TBI Waiver Manual’s) revisions.”

Then, like now, the DOH is inexcusably insular and, frankly, arrogant. Here is a state agency charged with overseeing a waiver for people with brain injuries yet they have no required brain injury training for any of their employees, contract or otherwise, and clearly no intention of availing themselves of the huge swaths of knowledge about the subject that has always been available to them with the TBISCC, the Brain Injury Association of NY State (which provides superb training on brain injury), the Alliance of TBI Waiver Providers and more.

My suggestion to the council is to prepare and make some comprehensive proposals, publicize the proposals you make and publicize the response you get from the DOH. Start with a Facebook page, and then expand.