Time to say goodbye to BIANYS’ Avner

Until and unless the board of the Brain Injury Association of NY State takes action, BIANYS will remain an insular presence controlled by a dictatorial executive director who should resign or be fired.

It seems clear that executive director Judith Avner has no real interest in truly interacting with or listening to BIANYS members, including those of us who live with brain injuries. She  shuts down  any and all attempts to improve transparency, maintains a dictatorial grip on the BIANYS board, website, Facebook page,  and newsletter, and has the board president marching to her orders. However, Ms. Avner is all too happy to ask anyone and everyone to donate money, appear at fundraisers, and have her picture taken with any and all celebrities who support BIANYS, mistakenly thinking BIANYS does what Ms. Avner says it does. I suspect it is safe to assume Ms. Avner is diligent about accepting her roughly $2,000 a week paycheck.

Save for its remaining valiant support group facilitators (volunteers all) and a small group of underpaid staff, most of whom are equally valiant in their work with those who sustained brain injuries in their youth, not as adults,  BIANYS has become little more than window dressing thanks to Ms. Avner, a seemingly anemic board, and a cluster of sycophants.

It’s hard enough managing life with a brain injury. It’s even harder when those who claim to care about you and say they advocate for you do anything but care and advocate, unless, of course, you count lip service. 

Over the past few weeks several BIANYS members and former BIANYS board members have been involved in series of email exchanges with BIANYS seeking answers to several questions and offering to help, not hurt, BIANYS, if, in fact, the answers are not all one would hope they’d be. While Ms. Avner will say all the things one would hope to hear at fundraisers and  BIANYS conferences, she refuses to even respond to any of the emails, some of which asked BIANYS to create an online forum for open discussion, whether that be a message board or the discussion component of their FB page.

Instead, the task of responding was given to Marie Cavallo, the BIANYS board president, a volunteer. As one person who read the email exchanges observed: “It looks like Marie’s lost her mojo.” Ms. Cavallo said BIANYS rejected the notion of a message board because it would be too time consuming. She said BIANYS rejected opening the FB page to discussion because, she claimed, healthcare providers had used the page to tout their wares. When it was pointed out that FB allows one to block companies and individuals, the next excuse she offered for nixing the FB idea was it’s too time consuming. Then, in what gave us all a flutter of hope, she said she would talk with BIANYS staff about opening the FB page (One wonders why it’s the board president and not the executive director talking with staff when the executive director is their supervisor. Perhaps Ms. Avner doesn’t have time for staff either.). Since then Ms. Cavallo has chosen to walk in lockstep with Ms. Avner and has ignored our emails and, needless to say, their FB page is still closed to discussion.

You may be wondering what were the questions we asked. Here’s a taste: Can you tell us how BIANYS informs its membership what it is advocating for? How does BIANYS decide what it will advocate for and how does BIANYS include its members in the discussion? (At one point Ms. Cavallo pointed out that BIANYS issues an annual report and publishes newsletters on its website. All true. But you’ve got a better chance of finding a needle in the Sahara desert than you do of finding word-one about BIANYS’ advocacy in the annuals reports or newsletters). We also asked how many person with a brain injury does BIANYS currently employ and how many has BIANYS employed since Ms. Avner took the helm on or about 1987. No answer.

Lest you think any of us are out to do anything other than hold BIANYS accountable let me say that in our emails we offered to help and support BIANYS in identifying individuals with brain injuries for employment and issues of advocacy. No response.

Lastly (for now), there are times the choices we make in life reveal our true colors. Several years ago when I was on the BIANYS board a fellow board member died. This board member, like me lived with a brain injury and had been in poor health for some time. However, poor health or not,  this person’s heartfelt commitment to BIANYS and devotion to those of us who live with brain injuries and our loves ones was unflinching. Had anyone on that board suffered a calamity in his or her life this person, poor health or not, would be there for them come hell or high water. Yet, when this good and decent human being left this world, Ms. Avner and Ms. Cavallo were no shows at the memorial service.

And then there’s this. At the first board meeting following this person’s death, Ms. Cavallo announced that Ms. Avner (who was sitting next to her) had been in frequent contact with the board member’s family and the family was doing well. Not long after this, I had the chance to have coffee with two members of the family (the board member’s spouse and child). I said I was glad Ms. Avner had been staying in touch with them. Both looked stunned. Ms. Avner had never called them, not even once.

Like I said at the outset, until and unless the board of the Brain Injury Association of NY State takes action, BIANYS will remain an insular presence controlled by a dictatorial executive director who should resign or be fired.

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