Normal is you giving yourself permission to be you.
In a recent workshop with trauma survivors and today in a conversation with an extraordinary woman, the subject of normal came up. Normal is a dangerous notion because it is drenched in the poison judgment. Judgment is poison, at in my view it is. Were it not for my allegiance to free speech, I would urge that the word normal be banned. Normal as an expectation should be banned. What gets presented as normal by society is driven by commercial interests which are driven by the desire to make money which is, more often than not, driven by greed. And nothing driven by greed can be normal, meaning nothing driven by greed can be physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy.
The line from Bruce Springsteen’s song Badlands says a lot about the greed-driven “normal”:
“Poor man wanna be rich,
rich man wanna be king
And a king ain’t satisfied
till he rules everything”
I know a business owner or two that went from good to bad ‘cause they wanted and want to rule everything. Wanting to rule everything? Nowthat ain’t fucking normal.
Normal is being who you are. Nothing more, nothing less. Being who you are, learning to be who you are, allowing yourself to be who you are, and not letting your history stop you.
Think about it, if there is anything in the world you deserve to be, it’s you. You are a wonderful discovery. If you don’t think so, take some decision making power away from the unhealthy messages inflicted on you by your history. When you do that, you will get to meet your true self. Guaranteed you’ll wind up best friends.
That’s the way it’s ‘sposed to be.