Many hearts long to hear the words I love you and many hearts struggle to say them. When these three life-giving words remain unheard and unspoken, the suffering and destruction cannot be measured.
Those raised not hearing these words often struggle to say them. Some say actions speak louder than words. More often than not this is true, but not in this case. Now when it comes to saying I love you. The notion that people should know we love them misguided and it is not the point. There is something deep in our child hearts that hungers and deserves to hear these words.
My last conversation with my mother Virginia took place on the phone three days before she committed suicide. She had said she was going to commit suicide. The last words I said to my mother were, I love you, Mommy. The last words she said to her son were, Thank you, Peter. When I hung up the phone I crumpled to my hands and knees and sobbed. I sobbed because I didn’t know if I was going to be able to save her life (I couldn’t!) and she couldn’t say, I love you.
I inflict zero judgment on those who struggle to say these words. More than likely the people who were and are deeply precious and important in their lives never said I love you to them. Somehow, some way, this pattern needs to be destroyed. And for those of you who have not heard the words I love you from people in your lives, please don’t give up – and don’t forget to say, I love you.